Clinical Focus

Intimacy

Intimacy is the emotional closeness and connection we seek from our most dear and trusted partners, friends, and family members.

Learning how emotional intimacy can be expressed in verbal and non-verbal communication. It’s effectiveness, as well as the degree of comfort and mutual experience of closeness might indicate emotional intimacy between individuals. Learning how intimate communication can be both overtly expressed, e.g. talking, and covertly implied, e.g by making eye contact, or with friends just sitting close to one another on a park bench in silence.

Emotional intimacy depends primarily on trust, as well as the nature of the relationship and the culture in which it is observed. Depending on the background and conventions of the participants, emotional intimacy might involve disclosing thoughts, feelings and emotions in order to reach an understanding, to offer mutual support to one another.

How we seek emotional intimacy out both directly, covertly, and sometimes by acting out our feelings. What appears to be very disturbing disruptive and irritating behavior may actually be one’s covert manner of acting out to attain the emotional intimacy with others they seek. As human beings we come

into this world seeking both physical and Emotional Intimacy with others, and we do achieve this, but not always directly and in loving positive caring ways.

As human beings we tend to achieve intimacy through written and verbal expression, physical proximity to others, as well as through sexual intimacy.

The need for intimacy and connectedness are qualities we all seek to avoid emotional deprivation, isolation, and allow us to express feelings of love as well as to get the love we want from others.